Five-year postpartum checkup

by CountryFriedMama on May 28, 2011

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Every time we move, I am reminded of a stark difference between me and Country-Fried Daddy. He is the keeper of momentos — not a hoarder, but a careful collector. He can open a closet, put his hands on a small box amidst a huge mess, and find the cork to the champagne bottle we opened at our wedding, the business card from his very first job, and a bunch of other  things that represent otherwise intangible memories.

I, on the other hand, am a purger. I take great pleasure in tossing things out rather than putting them in boxes. Bags and bags and bags of stuff have gone out the door to charity in preparation for our upcoming move, and I’m proud of that little accomplishment.

But I’m glad my husband isn’t a purger like me. We never might have saved this gem, which we found last night, late into Miss D.’s fifth birthday.

It’s her In & Out Diary:

Do you know what that is? A record of every wet diaper, every dirty one, every feeding and every bath we gave her for FOUR MONTHS.

Clearly, we were insane.

And that? That’s the sleep diary I kept for her for months. I must have read somewhere that if you could just discern the pattern, you could get enough rest to not lose your damn mind.

I’m sure at some point, I tried to get rid of these things, and Country-Fried Daddy said, “No, let’s keep them.” I’m grateful for that, because as we celebrated her fifth birthday yesterday, it was kind of incredible to look over the obsessiveness of those notes and remember how much Miss D.’s birth rocked our world, and how very far we have come since then.

Happy birthday, big girl.

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Laptops on Vacation
May 30, 2011 at 9:59 am

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Twitter: janatude
May 28, 2011 at 8:45 am

Wow, you were insane! And so was I! It’s a good exercise, I’ve found, reading diaries and seeing how hard it was to adjust to this new life at first. It will help empathize with new parents, I suppose.


Erin Margolin
Twitter: erinmargolin
May 28, 2011 at 8:58 am

I have a notebook like this too, stashed somewhere. I didn’t keep track of quite as many things as you did—I’m impressed! Like you, I thought maybe I could determine patterns from the “good days” and then come up w/ the magical formula. HA! Now that bun # 3 is in the oven, I know better!

She is darling! and you are awesome!


Weekend Cowgirl
Twitter: weekendcowgirl
May 28, 2011 at 11:02 am

That is precious that you kept and in and out diary! She is adorable… if you ever decide to purge it you should scan some pages first. She would get a kick out of seeing it when she is grown and having a baby of her own…


Nancy @ Roving Lemon’s Big Adventure
Twitter: rovinglemon
May 28, 2011 at 2:52 pm

I just found Miss B’s–brings it all back so vividly, doesn’t it? How can five years simultaneously seem like an eon and the blink of an eye? Happy birthday to Miss D!


Elana May 28, 2011 at 4:12 pm

ummm, am I expected to do such things when my little guy is born? My anxiety level just increased.


Twitter: countryfried
May 29, 2011 at 2:05 pm

Definitely not, Elana. I think we did it to keep our anxiety low. Surely we could control everything about having a baby if we could fit it all into neatly drawn columns, right? Riiiight.


Bubbe May 28, 2011 at 5:37 pm

i totally remember the in and out book and how when I babysat I had to get complete and intricate instructions for every type of move…..which I needed complete and intricate instructions by the way. Never throw those things ! Gorgeous picture, she’s amazing.


Laura (@chambanalaura)
Twitter: chambanalaura
May 28, 2011 at 9:14 pm

I obsessively kept a journal for my oldest. Youngest has no baby book, nothing. Yes, I know they will hate me, and I am OK with that.

She will love that someday. you rock.


Twitter: countryfried
May 29, 2011 at 2:06 pm

Our baby books are pathetic. But, there’s the blog, right? I hope they’ll accept that defense.


Kalisa May 30, 2011 at 10:35 am

Gorgeous photo!!


Stacia May 31, 2011 at 10:57 pm

Happy Birthday, Miss D.! I’m sure and CFD can mine those logs and journals for embarrassing stories to tell at her wedding reception. =>


ck June 1, 2011 at 6:11 pm

Oh my goodness, she’s beautiful!

(And this part made me laugh “I must have read somewhere that if you could just discern the pattern, you could get enough rest to not lose your damn mind.”)


Rachel @ Grasping for Objectivity in my Subjective Life
Twitter: objectivityrach
June 1, 2011 at 8:09 pm

Here’s my post about the exact same OCD Notebook – they’re eerily similar.

At least you’re not alone.


Auntie M June 4, 2011 at 4:23 pm

OMG..I remember babysitting your precious little one five years ago and I don’t recall writing anything down. Sorry, Mama. Looks like it was not a factor! She is beautiful!!


kate June 4, 2011 at 7:38 pm

What a great post…I know we have all done crazy things like that at one point or another- especially with our firsts! Glad to have stumbled across you though. I too, am a Yankee, newly transplanted here to Birmingham, (although we’ve been in the South for several years now) a mother to little ones, and I am also a freelance writer. I’d love to chit chat sometime about our commonalities…I am starting to work more often and am all about making local connections!


Twitter: countryfried
June 10, 2011 at 8:35 pm

Any time, Kate! Would love to talk with you.


Steel Magnolia June 8, 2011 at 11:09 pm

We did the same thing! It was a whole three ring binder. And we still have it, too. Happy birthday to the big girl. And since it’s your celebration, too: Happy Birth Day!


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